Misty settled down from her old destructive ways that she had exhibited while living in our old home. She seemed calmer and less hyper about getting on our new furniture. Thinking back to Misty’s old ways when she was going to obedience training, I postulated what she must have felt, and was trying to say back then
“Please, just let me BE.
I want to be who I am, instead of who you want me to be.
I am a bit of a hyper terrier who is so lonely when you all leave me behind.
I love you so much and feel left out when you are all gone.
I want to go too.
I am bored all day by myself.
I am part of the family and I want to be with you.
I act out as a child who is hurting would—I want your attention!
Instead, you keep forcing me to go through this charade of trying to make me a better, well-behaved dog.
I already am a Great Dog.
I am trying to tell you how lonely I am when you leave me.
I LOVE YOU
I want you to be here with me.”
In hindsight, it is so easy for me to see now. How foolish of us to force her to be a good dog. She was already a great loving dog and lived only for us. Never being out of our sight for the past fourteen months, I could interpret her changes. This dear animal, teacher, was bringing so much awareness to me. In the beginning, our little puppy seemed to be a terror ripping our home to shreds. Through time I have come to understand that when Misty was left home alone she was hurting and lonely. She loved us so much, yet didn’t know why we had to leave her alone. Her behavior was her way of showing us how upset she was. She felt unloved and misunderstood, and by destroying our house, she was trying to get our attention. We misjudged her in those days. She demonstrated to me how this mistake is made when we try to make others fit a mold of who we think they should be instead of who they are.
Misty taught me these valuable lessons:
“Please love me for who I am.
Love everyone for who they are.
Accept others as they are, keep from making others be what you think they should be, so you can feel ease.
Accept everyone for who they are, with missteps and all.
Refrain from judging anyone—especially anyone who doesn’t fit a particular idea of who we think they should be.
In how they act, if they are different from us, or if they don’t behave the way we want them to.”